Love, cocktails and cake, good food and dancing, love, more cocktails and laughter. Last weekend Mr H and I escaped family life for a little date day. For the first time in what feels like forever we managed to talk about us, us as a couple, our marriage, our relationship, our jobs, more than we did our gorgeous little boy. And whilst to some of you that may seem a strange thing to say, for us it was a stepping stone. A step back to a time when only we existed, and whilst I wouldn’t change our little family, not one teeny weeny bit it felt truly wonderful for it to be just us. Just for a few hours.
It felt lovely to remember who came first in the relationship, that before Lil G, our commitments and life as we know it, it was us; Simon and Kerri-Ann. Not mummy and daddy. And whilst I would never wish for life to be any different than it is today, it feels nice to be at the centre of my husbands attention. Does that make me sound selfish? I’m trying not to sound selfish or feel guilty as I write this blog post but I truly believe that love is important. To be loved, and to love but more importantly to still love each other.
A happy couple is not a perfect couple, I am sure that we are far from being a perfect couple, but we are happy. A happy couple is a couple that over time evolves, becomes stronger; through sickness and in health, redundancy and financial struggle, parenthood and in celebration come together, stay together and most of all love each other. A great relationship isn’t luck, and doesn’t just happen, it is something that requires effort, attention and a kind heart. It requires honest communication and openness about any worries, fears and sadness, as well as hopes, dreams and happiness. The importance of being earnest.
Most importantly and something I often wonder in so many relationships that I see slipping away, do they make time for each other? Just like most things in life, work and pleasure, if you neglect it, it will neglect you. If you neglect your relationship, your relationship will neglect you too. With busy schedules I think it is so easy to forget to be together, to relax and enjoy each others company. To look back at significant moments, to remember the good, bad and ugly but also to laugh, smile and to cherish those ordinary moments. Ones which often disappear in a world of busy schedules, play dates and homework.
Putting this post together got me thinking about the importance of remembering our relationship milestones. And so, in a bid to remember them, to have them written down and to see how they may change over the years, I thought I would share ours with you…
- First date
- First declaration of love – those three magic words
- Moving in together
- First commitment – rescuing our fur baby
- First holiday – we went to Turkey
- Engagement – in Central Park, NYC
- Honeymoon – travelling around Thailand
- Becoming a family with the arrival of our gorgeous boy
- Remembering to be us, when date days were invented
And here are a few photos from our little date day in Manchester, a day where we added another relationship milestone. Whilst this one may seem a little less spectacular to those listed above, you may even chuckle, but, it meant something to me.
You see, my husband is somewhat camera shy, however after a cocktail or two, I persuaded him to sit in a photo booth, to be silly and to allow the camera to capture a moment in time which I will forever remember. Remember it as being a day that we were a couple, husband and wife, remembering to love each other. A day where we came first, before our little family, where we existed in our own little bubble only to be burst by waking the next morning excited to see our gorgeous boy. Where we fought over who was going to drive and which of us would knock on the door first.
And in case you were wondering, Mr H won, on the plus side I did get to see their embrace, being mummy and daddy truly is a wonderful thing.
What are your Top 10 moments in your relationship? Or what would you add to the list?